Why am I here? or What am I supposed to do now? These are questions that, as a father, I ask myself regularly. For the sake of this page, the question is Why do I go through the trouble of blogging about going through the trouble….
Frankly the answer is, I want to help. I am here to provide ideas and inspiration to parents who are feeling overwhelmed with the attention draining, self-esteem challenging, wonderful, fun and scary onslaught of devices, games and social media that push into the daily life of parents and children. I know there are a lot of parents out there that may feel like they are sinking in a world of devices and digital distractions that are all taking their kids minds and attentions away from what we feel is important. I have often been out in the wild, watching other parents struggle, probably feeling like they are all alone. That they are the only parent in the world that doesn’t have it all together, after all, all the rest of us seem so calm… If there is any one amazing insight that I can provide that struggling parent it is this: YOU ARE NOT ALONE! We are all just as confused, faking it, and hoping we get away with it. Every one of us with children of any age are fighting this battle with you, or at least beside you. While that sounds cliche, it is true. Every dad I know is in this just as deep as I am. Some parents think they know it all, some resign themselves to know nothing, most are right in the middle, but all of us are just guessing and learning as we go. We hear some idea that clicks and we latch on to it to see if it will help. Part of it will work, part will fail. Every time we think we have the solution. Every time we learn again that we don’t. We instead have some percentage of victory and some amount of failure. The trick is, don’t focus on either. See it all as the learning experience it is and bend and adapt from it.
I am not here to be critical. I do not have all the answers. I am a technowledgeable father of four. At the moment they are 16, 11, 8, and 5. My wife of 25 years and I are both working professionals, and both self employed. We have tried (often unsuccessfully) to take each step along this parenting trek deliberately and with thoughtful purpose. We are overcoming challenges, finding creative solutions and trying to have a little fun along the way. Maybe the story I share will help, hopefully it will at least be entertaining and help remind you to keep trying. Enjoy this, we are!